I told them but I told myself first.

If you have read and/or spoke to me then you have heard me announce: I want to create with words & I want to create with design.

Most recipients of these informative lines which are delivered, clearly & confidently, gave me a response.

The actual response was always congratulatory and uplifting. The feelings delivered alongside mostly complemented the verbal thought. The mixed bag of responses goes as follows:

  • I sensed a question: Does she know how to design or write? What will she write about or what will she design?
  • My Dad responded with ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ because this is how he emotes. I am almost positive he has this sequence of emojis saved. Also, he called me a genius which we all know is not true.
  • I sensed an admiration for the thought clarity.
  • I sensed an indifferent vibe where a cursory that’s nice, well done is conveyed.
  • I sensed a practical pause that quietly congratulated me and then got down to inquiring about the plan of execution.
  • My MIL asked me if I have checked the trademark database and that she will provide verbal marketing when I am ready.
  • I sensed a genuine spark of interest that lead to questions about the content and entrepreneurship.
  • I sensed a triggered moment. A moment where the person is transported to a time when they thought they were going to start something that gave them joy. A warm familiar smile follows and then leads to their story.
  • I sensed silence. The elephant-in-the-room kind. More specifically, I see you, I agree with you, I like what you have to say but I cannot acknowledge you. It is super critical to note that the definition of acknowledgment here doesn’t mean just public social media interaction.
  • I sensed immense love, kindness, and readiness to help – “How can I help? And I am so happy for you”
  • My mother responded by sending me a motivational quote on Instagram and โ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ She also immediately assumed her role in helping me and she is correct. She is and always will be my right hand.
  • I sensed annoyance at my clarity and perceived arrogance. Almost as if one wanted to say who are you and what have experienced to share your experience! And I see you, you are not a designer. Girl! Keep your 9to5 and go on. โ€” this is the audience I hope to reach, one day.

No discouragement, yet, for sure. Humbling practical advice at best and it is very much appreciated. Overall, lots of love! Overtime I have consciously surrounded myself with people who are uplifting. Uplifting people that provide constructive response and not discouragement. There is a difference!

The way the world works is that ….

No one discourages a progressing toddler. That response is reserved for adults only. If one is wise they realize that the only source of discouragement to care about is your own thoughts. All of us are guilty of it! I have much to opine and share my experience with this topic but that is for a later day.

One of the response, that I cannot fit in a category, was – You are funny but your writing is lacking humor. I see it showing up in subtlety but people will engage more if it’s funny.

I agree! Presenting to you my favorite bird ..

One of my fav birds! Follow it here

I am fully aware of things that sell – humor, sex and maybe diet pills! Of the three things that sell I can provide one of them but it has to come organically, so keep reading and sharing my posts โ™ฅ๏ธ

None of the responses surprised me and for the first time in my life I felt like I knew what to expect. Because its it not for the first time in my life that I have made a major decision and announced it to the world with clarity.

Fun Fact: When I eat something ridiculously delicious & healthy I announce to my husband, all the time, that this is what we will eat once a week from here on. We donโ€™t!

Some announcements are frivolous.

Some announcements are articulation in progress.

Some announcements are a made decision.

I am grateful to have had the experiences that prepared and humbled me for some life responses. Through the years I have found support and love in starting/announcing but its the guidance, post-announcement, that was rare. Truth be told you are on your own and if you are passionate, pragmatic, and persistent you will find a way. Also, a bit of preparation for the immediate responses will make you immune to that immediate discouragement.

Excel doesn’t love me for numbers but I love excel for life organization. In my creative worksheet,I have a tab labeled “When in doubt read this”

My method to the madness

This tab has words that I want to say to myself. The words that I do say to myself everyday. The action that I expect myself to take.

Make a tab for yourself in whatever is your version of excel. I will share a snippet of my self-talk:

  • This is your goal and your dream. No one will understand it fully it and they cannot be expected to understand. If they support it, that is enough. Be grateful for the support.
  • If you feel lost, like a failure, out of comfort zone and not in control — Feel those feelings and put a 15min timer and cry/scream/do squats/hug/whatever. Then get up take a shower and start again.
  • Immediate reactions are just that, immediate. Allow someone time to understand your vision, they may be your biggest strength afterward.
  • You may realize that you grossly over-estimated your talent and that churn of realization will give you clarity on what is your actual talent. Don’t give up!
  • Remember all those people, processes, experiences, suggestions, platforms and you! – These things got you through darker times. Be that for someone!! You had support but you lacked guidance. Be that guide for someone.
  • Be ruthless about where you spend your time, energy and love. It is OK to excuse yourself from situations and people. Be where you are welcomed and wanted.
  • Ask for help. And help when asked.
  • One day your son will grow up and get to know you all over again with your words and work – be honest and influence a world you want for him.

Make a list of your self-talk and talk to yourself often. Its a great preparation especially when you announce something to the world. Because there will be surprises but you may find a tool in kit to deal with the surprises.

If you already have a list of self-talk, do share your tips in comments. I would love to hear your words!

You are reading this line because you read the whole post. If the words here are worthy of a thought then share it with the world. Share on Facebook and follow me on Instagram it helps me in getting my name out ๐Ÿ™‚

Smile, you are not on camera but just because ๐Ÿ™‚

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